misdirection and joy

Compliments of the season to you dohls(and Gents)!!!! I hope y'all had mad fun with friends
And loved ones. Well, its the end of year and the mood seems to be sober on the streets
cos of all that's been goin down,reflections and broke pockets.(Hehe)
I thot long and hard about tonite's post cos there were so many things I wanted to share,some of which shouldn't be shared but hey... So, the year's come to an end(3days to go).It's mixed feelings galore....things I shoulda done, things I shouldn't have(oh boy...)things I planned to do and dreams and goals that never made it to the light.... Regrets and more Regrets. Ever notice how we wallow in the bad and totally forget those GREAT moments we had(unless we're being reminded to be grateful and count our blessings)?? I used to be guilty. Ooohh, my life was this and that and I was never happy wiv what I got but I 'managed'.... Hmmmmnnn. Being lost in the middle of the year was my norm. One day I'd wake up and it would be a different set of goals that I didn't plan for or another direction for my life would just blindside me like a go-kart... Till I learnt how to see the kart coming and either speed up or slow down and watch where it was headed. Most times the direction of the 'kart' was hidden and not right for that moment while other times it'll be just where I was headed anyways...
Sometimes things we never plan for pop up at the worst times in our lives. We are either blindsided or we never even noticed the warning signs or red flags. IF and only IF we take a step back in that moment and look at the bigger picture of that seemingly unfair mess,shall we find joy in that'misdirection' (hey, who am I kidding. I usually find joy in the 'misdirection' after I see a path to one of my goals) Misdirection at that moment can turn out to be one of the best times in one's life cos expectations are removed giving room for the blessings to come to us the way it had been orchestrated to. By God and events preceding.
Joy in misdirection is possible! So don't see that situation as hopeless or just not where you wanna be.....it might be where you NEED to be to move up to the next level. Review ur year with joy cos 2011 is gonna be soo much better!!! We WILL make it so!!

absence and the heart

Well, hello dolls!! I must say its been a pretty long while. I had y'all in ma heart o but
Life just did not co-operate. Another month is here. Its not just another month but The EnD of the year.... Hmmn.
Usually,I'd go on and on about resolutions and yearly achievements...yada yada da but this year just feels
different. Maybe it has to do with the fact that all I did this year were things I never planned for(so much for goal setting)a few unmentionables and ahhh! the gooood times. You know those times you feel like stopping time and just
basking in 'em...(Wistful sighs here).

Well, there were a few times I would've loved to fast forward thru(note to self-get a universal remote)but had to painfully go through. Then my heart messed up. 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' indeed. It makes the heart grow fonder of YOUR absence!! I tried to make that work but ma heart was way to fond of his absence. Ladies,please don't quote that!! Unless he is firmly entrenched in your heart.... So I have decided that my first resolution of the year 2011 is to let my heart lead the way cos in the long run absence and the heart are definitely not compatible!!!

Its World's AIDS DAY.... Please be safe dolls!

Men,Men,Men...life's favourite curve ball

So, i had a reaaallly hectic weekend...basically distracted from my goals by a gorgeous...man ;-)!!

we love 'em then we love to hate 'em..truth is we CAN do without them(i can picture some dolls cringing at the thot of being manless) oh... by the way, hallo dolls!!(my manners went out with my lunch)

I was speaking on life(nasty female that we love)in my last post and i realized that men are one of life's nastiest balls.. er sorry CURVE balls. how- you might ask?(some dolls would probably roll their heavily mascaraed eyes and say just get on wiv it!!) well, imagine giving yourself totally to a man , you get married and believe that your life is in the best place ever and can only get better from there... it does for a while. Then he becomes a different person almost overnight,(cos most times we chics are oblivious to changes except those on our thighs and tummies)gets a cuter 'lady' on the side and wakes up on morning and throws the huge ball in your face with these words...'i want a divorce'(or 'its over'..(feel free to replace with your fav line). Major curveball!!

so what's a diva to do when she hears these words?? because if you've ever been in that situation, you'll agree with me that life, as you knew it, is officially over.Your confidence in your fabulosity is shattered(depending on how much of your soul you opened up to the worm!), faith is men is gone and nothing seems worth the bother-even work! Well, in that situation it is totally impossible to see how it can be a blessing.The best thing you can do ....cry a river then party like its 1999 and the millennium bug is gonna cause Armageddon!!!! Cos doll, NOBODY can love you better than you love yourself.(Word!! i feel like a preacher...in my kooky mind :-(   )

So divas, no matter what ball life throws in your face, there will always be a better tomorrow-translation-a more handsome, sexier, six-pack-tight, sexier-eyes -to drown- in,lips to die for(and he's gonna kiss you till you melt) guy. think a black, cleaner capt jack sparrow(if thats your type) or a  mc dreamy, mc steamy or.. uuu, uuu, uuu i know!! Enrique inglesias!!!!! Sigh!!!  (please bear with me as i drift away on a fluffy cloud with enrrrique( isnt that just a sexy name?)

later dolls!!!!!

be as rare as a flawless pink diamond!!

Life and its balls

Life, they say, loves to throw curve balls at us..they being me and us being females, which makes life female cos she/it's so temperamental and loves to throw hissy fits for no reason. Most times we tend to be unaware and get hit smack in the face,then spend eons struggling to get back to where we were before getting hit.Sometimes we are alert and duck...just in time.(in that case we're safe...for a while at least) it's the times when we cant see them coming and get smacked that I'm interested in.

Getting hit isn't the problem as long as it's not by a guy...sorry i digress.It's getting up that is. Do we really have to get back to where we were? wouldn't it be easier to just take off in a completely new direction and get that excitement about life back into us(despite the fact that she threw balls at us)? could the change or sudden devastation or turmoil not be to our benefit?(please note that the loss of loved ones can never be easy to bear and thus do not count in this post). Sometimes a door closes us off from a place we loved to be in and then a window opens us up to a place beyond our expectation...only if we are willing to let go of the closed door.

Life's curve balls are a way of keeping us in motion cos we as women tend to get complacent when things are fine and we never notice the subtle changes that go on around us in our families. A fine example would be....men...husbands to be precise. Oh well, getting started on this always makes me hungry, besides it's another topic entirely.so i'll be back tomorrow to finish it off. Right now, this doll has got to get dolled up cos its FRIDAY and bright lights are calling!!!
Later dolls!! xoxo